Helping you regain trust and safety in your relationship is our top priority.
Our approach is focused on helping you heal from the heartbreak of an affair, understanding why this happened to your relationship, and safeguarding your marriage from the threat of affairs in the future.
Your relationship after infidelity
We are frequently asked if it is possible to heal a relationship after infidelity. Although the pain and devastation partners feel after learning about an affair can be overwhelming, it is possible for a relationship to fully recover.
Maegan is highly skilled in helping couples heal the wounds caused by infidelity. We will focus on understanding why the affair happened and how to prevent it from happening in the future. Trust and intimacy can be restored through hard work and commitment to couples counseling.
How to heal marriage after infidelity?
The first step to recovery is to seek couples therapy to ensure you have the professional support you need control the damage caused the affair. Your couples therapist can suggest referrals for individual therapy if you need additional support.
During couples therapy, we will explore factors that contributed to the affair. Emotional disconnection, compulsive sexual behavior (a.k.a. sexual addiction), pornography use, substance abuse, and excessive flirting are some of the variables we may discuss. Both you and your partner will have a safe space to express your feelings, fears, and expectations about intimacy and sex. Our goal is to heal the damage caused by the affair, to rebuild trust and safety in the relationship, and to strengthen your bond against future emotional or sexual transgressions.
What if I’m not sure I want to stay in the relationship?
Of course you’re not sure you want to stay in the relationship! You are feeling betrayed, alone, and hopeless. You may even be experiencing PTSD symptoms like flashbacks, hypervigilence, and extreme sadness. We understand how overwhelmed you’re feeling but want to encourage you not to make any long-term decisions before consulting with a couples therapist. We are here to help you make sense of the chaos and heal from the immediate destruction of the affair. Part of the affair recovery process is deciding if you want to move forward together or apart. We will support whatever path you decide is best for you.
What are the red flags if my partner is having an affair?
Suspecting your partner of infidelity is painful and scary. You want to confirm your suspicions as soon as possible to reduce the anxiety you’re feeling every moment of the day. There are tons of online articles listing the “top five signs your partner is cheating” but our advice is to avoid these articles at all costs! Do not let yourself fall into the trap of investigating your partner for signs that he is cheating; instead, seek out a couples therapist immediately to address the issues that are causing you to feel insecure and disconnected. The sooner you address the problem in therapy, the easier it will be to recover from whatever is happening in your relationship.
What’s the difference between an infidelity and an emotional affair?
There is no standardized definition of what it means to have an affair. Generally speaking, infidelity is either having a sexual relationship or an intimate emotional connection with someone other than your partner. When you first committed to each other, did you and your partner discuss the expectations for your relationship? (i.e. Is it okay to flirt with someone at work? Are you comfortable with looking at online pornography? Did you agree to have an open relationship?) Unfortunately, most couples do not discuss these uncomfortable questions and, therefore, do not know what behaviors are “stepping over the line”. It is important to clarify what constitutes infidelity in your unique relationship and not to assume that there are certain unspoken rules between you.
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